Rather than just repeating the same thing to your child over and over regarding conflict resolution:
"Stop that!", "Be nice to him/her", "How would you like it?", etc..., how about trying out teaching them these important skills (tips picked up from the excellent workbook on bullying, No Kidding Abour Bullying by Naomi Drew.? She calls them "willingness skills", as they are skills that must be learned if you are really willing to resolve conflicts. They are:
Hear out the other person
Why is it so important to be willing to work out conflicts?
Which willingness skill is most challenging for you?
How can you work on that?
I know its complex and this is not the answer to all our bullying/conflict problems. But there is certainly something to this. I am determined to give it a shot this week. Who's in?