tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post2409051360065389582..comments2024-03-08T05:29:39.176-05:00Comments on Dads UnLimited: Rewards for right behaviorRon Easton for Dads UnLimitedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12882214390082630285noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-50665243464650754302012-02-28T16:44:36.020-05:002012-02-28T16:44:36.020-05:00Thanks for the comment. I like your phrase, "...Thanks for the comment. I like your phrase, "setting up for success". I guess I wasn't clear enough was I, I will have to clarify in another post later, but what I'm talking about is expecting a child to do what is right, and if they don't have them repeat what was done incorrectly. Rather than saying, "Do it right, and you get a prize," raise the expectation to, "do the right thing because it is the right thing." <br />As I said in a previous comment, this is not for a two year old, we have to correct, reward, discipline, praise, all along the way. <br />I worry the pendulum toward expecting our children will not behave unless we dangle ever-larger carrots has contributed to the entitled generation we see springing up before us.Ron Easton for Dads UnLimitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12882214390082630285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-63357862134576035642012-02-28T10:30:05.541-05:002012-02-28T10:30:05.541-05:00Ron, You emphasize training instead of reward. I w...Ron, You emphasize training instead of reward. I wonder, what method of training are you employing? If not rewards, then punishment? Or is the issue here over clarifying the terms reward and reinforcement? A reinforcement is not always a something, like toy or candy.<br /><br />Hilary, I completely agree with leading by example. Staying positive (avoid "no, no, no!") and setting up for success are so important for raising kids. (And, um, training dogs.)<br /><br />To everyone: I highly recommend reading Karen Pryor's book, Don't Shoot the Dog! It will teach you a lot about the power of positive reinforcement. I think the world would be a better place if people used some of the principles in this book with other people in their lives, not just the dog.Julie Burroughshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05846882807629605529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-55998577746313759772012-02-23T13:24:25.270-05:002012-02-23T13:24:25.270-05:00Giveaway starts tomorrow! :)Giveaway starts tomorrow! :)Ron Easton for Dads UnLimitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12882214390082630285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-17369994132164525232012-02-23T13:10:04.283-05:002012-02-23T13:10:04.283-05:00Ya, hum, I'm actually visiting your blog today...Ya, hum, I'm actually visiting your blog today because you advertised that you were going to give something away. Do you mean a prize or a bribe or a reward? Was that just a bribe to stop by or is there a real prize. I like prizes. Did I win? I don't see any mention of a prize on your blog just this post on rewarding right behaviour. Hum? I do love you of course but I like rewards too ;) <br /><br />Love your sis!Join Us For Breakfasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10358151370938420362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-34526404576645952022012-02-23T11:28:43.268-05:002012-02-23T11:28:43.268-05:00Hi Ron .. thought you might be interested in this ...Hi Ron .. thought you might be interested in this - it's from a review for a book called "French Children Don't Throw Food" by Pamela Druckerman publ Doubleday ...<br /><br />She's a NYer with a British husband, set about raising her 3 small kids in Paris - she found her family at odds with the French way of doing it .. I was going to type it all up .. but here is A link one of them -http://www.thenational.ae/lifestyle/family/the-sense-in-pamela-druckermans-book-french-children-dont-throw-food <br /><br />Enjoy the style .. makes sense to me .. cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-86437764441175208752012-02-23T09:58:12.461-05:002012-02-23T09:58:12.461-05:00I think that we should expect them and train, espe...I think that we should expect them and train, especially train them, to mature toward do it because you love me and then just because it is right. We likely have to begin with do it because I said so, though. :)Ron Easton for Dads UnLimitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12882214390082630285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-26188128862529001962012-02-23T02:51:43.357-05:002012-02-23T02:51:43.357-05:00So, do we say, "do this because I told you to...So, do we say, "do this because I told you to?" or do we say, "if you love me, you will do what I tell you" or what do you think?Dennis and Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09612373406933060997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-38909072154253068192012-02-22T14:17:55.988-05:002012-02-22T14:17:55.988-05:00Empathy...what a beautiful word, Hilary.Empathy...what a beautiful word, Hilary.Ron Easton for Dads UnLimitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12882214390082630285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29706113.post-28897084681998197722012-02-22T13:35:48.895-05:002012-02-22T13:35:48.895-05:00Hi Ron .. we need to become accountable ourselves,...Hi Ron .. we need to become accountable ourselves, take responsibility for our lives, be polite, treat others as you'd have them do unto you - even if they don't .. we need to become leaders and set examples ... and I hope those things will come over to our kids.<br /><br />Too often doors get slammed in my face - it's lovely when someone holds one open for me .. <br /><br />Being kinder, quieter, more aware and responding with empathy .. doesn't take much .. but our lives will be a lot easier ..<br /><br />Cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.com